Parents often wonder, “How can I motivate my child to do what he or she is supposed to do? They’re lazy. They’re unmotivated.” The truth is your children are always motivated. They’re just not always motivated to do what you want them to do! They’re resistant to your well intentioned but discouraging methods to gain their cooperation.
Parents must change tactics and make effective transfer of responsibility a top priority. Intrinsic motivation is one of the most important “muscles” a parent can develop in their children. When parents use control methods, pampering and over-protection, they unwittingly neglect or sabotage the development of intrinsic motivation in their children, causing untold damage to self-esteem and healthy functioning.
Everything is a teaching opportunity. Parents must build skills that enable children to develop a can-do attitude and self-respect. Monitoring and encouraging stretching their capabilities, offering additional responsibilities, and mentoring children, actively develops leadership skills in children of all ages. A key concept at LifeWork Systems is the development of intrinsic motivation and personal responsibility within children from infancy to adulthood.